When you get divorced and still have minor children at home, the family court judge will have to award physical and legal custody to either parents or one parent. If you still want to be involved in your child's life and play an active role in raising them, you need to make sure you are positioning yourself so that awarding you full or partial custody of your child is in the best interest of your child.
#1: Ensure a Safe Living Environment
One of the first things you need to do is make sure that you can provide your child with a safe living environment. You need to make sure that your living situation is safe for a child and that your child has their own dedicated space inside of the home. If your children share a bedroom, have children close to the same age or the same gender share a room. You need to make sure that your child feels safe and comfortable wherever you live.
#2: Make Sure Your Job Supports Your Parenting
Having a job is essential. It shows that you can provide for your child. Additionally, you want to make sure that you have a job supporting your ability to take care of your child. You want your job to allow you the flexibility to support your child, be it that your hours allow you to prepare breakfast and get your children to school on time, or your job allows you to attend to after school activities, dinner, and homework time. You can show that your job doesn't get in the way of your ability to take care of your kids and spend quality time building a personal relationship with your children.
#3: Show You Have a Support System in Place
Next, it is essential to show that you have a support system to help you take care of your kids. For example, who takes care of your kids when you have to work when they are off from school, or who takes care of your kids when they are sick? Showing that you have childcare providers, family, or friends, you can trust to help take care of your kids can help increase your chances of being awarded custody.
#4: Keep Your Child's Life Stable
Finally, you need to show that you are committed to stability in your child's life. If you had to move due to the divorce, staying in the same school district or the same neighborhood is one way to show that you are committed to stability in your child's life. Being willing to do activities with your child and your former spouse is another way to show that you are committed to stability if that is a safe situation.
If you want to be awarded full or partial custody of your children in a divorce, you need to show that you are dedicated to providing your child with a safe and stable environment for them to grow in. Contact a family law attorney for more assistance.